I'm HARD on my hands, being disabled. It's nothing for me to have chipped/cracked/rough nails, cuts, scratches, etc. (Right now, I have 5 marks on my right hand, 1 mark and 2 sore nails on the left hand) I would HATE for my ering to get broken or bent because of my hands.
FH says he's totally willing to trade in my current ering (a marquise solitaire in 10K white gold) for a setting in stainless steel, but he doesn't want to go and have us do this if the stainless steel doesn't hold up like the 10k gold is.
Wedding Date: April 2015
Bride/Groom/Other (please specify): Bride
City/State/Country you live in: Rural IL
City/State/Country you're getting married in (if different): Prague
Your song/First Dance song: ?
Wedding Colors: ?
Theme (if you have one): ?
Number of guests: 25-30
How'd you meet your fiance?: at school
How long have you been together?: 6 years
Do you have a personal wedding website?: nope
Have you read the community rules before posting this survey and do you agree to follow them? yep :)
Anything else you'd like to tell us?: I have never dreamed about my wedding, so now that it's coming up I have no idea what I want! This includes the dress.
On one side, I love how the tighter fitting dresses look (va-va voom!) but they are uncomfortable to move around in and dancing would not be easy. The A-line/ball gown made of english net is so light and comfortable and romantic - but I can't help but think it doesn't look as good. My family is completely unhelpful so I am asking here for opinions. Or am I just over-thinking something that should be straight forward, haha.
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This looks like a great community and I look forward to being a part of it!
I think the best option is to actually pick up a phone and talk to people. All our friends are aware of the date anyway, but we could check in with those we don't talk to as often to remind them. Our parents can help with similarly reminding family we're not in touch with as often. I think as long as our wedding website is done so there's a place to point people to for more information, the phone call is just as good as a card in the mail.
The wedding was beautiful, the food was top notch, and I had a really great time... except during the social hour. My husband was Best Man and he was off getting his picture taken with the rest of the bridal party during that time. No biggie! I am, after all, an adult who fully understands the wedding-day agenda. So I get to the reception hall and I get in line for hors d'oeuvres. I chatted with some people around me about the ceremony and the weather and everything was fine. Until I went to find my seat. Seats were assigned, and I went to the table with the name cards but could not find my name. I scanned it about half a dozen times before I realized that no, my name would not magically appear if I tried to find it hard enough. So I started walking around. There were some people still milling around, but nearly the entire hall had found their seats when I realized that the head table had one more plate than was in the party. I casually walked over and lo and behold my name card was there. Since I didn't know anyone at the wedding except the bride and groom, I'm nearly 100% positive that she seated me there to be by my husband at dinner. But this created a really awkward effect: If I had sat at the head table before the bridal party arrived, I would have stuck out like a sore thumb. So I couldn't sit down without feeling EXTREMELY self-conscious and therefore anxious (things that I struggle with continuously and go to therapy for; I mean, just thinking about sitting by myself at the table gave me anxiety). I also was the only person in the hall who never sat down once during the social hour. I chatted with people in line just fine, but I think a lot of that was because we were forced to be near each other. As soon as they had what they went up for, they went back to their table. Since the seating was assigned, I couldn't sit in someone else's seat to try to make small talk either. I was in limbo for an hour and a half and it kinda sucked. =/
I don't think there is ever going to be a perfect solution to seating the bridal party's significant others, and I really do think the bride was trying to be thoughtful of me, but damn it was a rough reception.
She purchased bridesmaid dresses from RenzRags on etsy (https://www.etsy.com/shop/RenzRags
TWO DAYS before the wedding, they emailed her and said the dress was finished, but it was too late to ship it. That's it. No other helpful suggestions. Since they were located 3 hours away, my sister asked if they would drive it up. They refused. She asked if they would meet us halfway, but that was also met with refusal. Finally, they said she could come pick it up herself from a husband of one of the shop employees, who would be marginally closer to her. Out of options at that point, my sister had to drive 2.5 hours the MORNING of her wedding rehearsal to pick up that dress, only to find out that it was the WRONG DRESS - the one we had sent back in the first place!
The husband tried to get ahold of the shop for another hour while she waited, but they didn't respond. Since she had to make it back to the rehearsal, she grabbed the wrong dress (because at least it was in the correct color) and drove back 2.5 hours.
They finally got back to her later in the day and said they couldn't find the correct dress anywhere in their shop. How do you finish a dress the day before and then completely lose it? They said they wouldn't charge her for the wrong dress, but that's way too little and way too late. I am furious at how much stress they caused my little sister, who should've been relaxing the day before her wedding, not super stressed out and driving (pointlessly) around for 5 hours. So please, if you don't want to worry about missing bridesmaid dresses, don't order from RenzRags!
I've been married for 8 months now, and I've been meaning to post it up for sale...but I just...now I'm not so sure. I've grown attached to it.
The logical part of me is saying just shutup and sell it. I have no intentions of having children at this point, and even if I do, I wouldn't want to pass my dress on to my daughter. I wouldn't have wanted to wear my mother's dress if she hadn't lost it when our house flooded when I was 14 (at which point she regretted not selling it). My mother didn't want to wear her mother's dress. So saving it for a potential future daughter is just not a thing for me.
So my question is, if you sold your dress, do you have any regrets about it?
Also, where is the best place (read: where will I get the most money :P) to sell it?
I am the matron of honor in my best friend's wedding in July. I just recently moved to Columbus, OH (like, 7 weeks ago) and I'm having a hard time finding an alterations shop to take in the bust of my dress. (I got it at David's Bridal, and I do NOT trust them to do this, as they couldn't even give me the right sizes to try on!)
I've seen a couple places with reviews online, but not very many, and I'm sure there are more out there. I asked if my hair salon if they had any businesses they reciprocated referrals with but no dice. Any WPers have any personal experience? Thanks!
Thanks very much!
Edit: Not required, but bonus points if it's free or one-time payment. :)
Name and/or LJ userID: Sarah
Wedding Date: June 2015
Bride/Groom/Other (please specify): Bride
City/State/Country you live in: Ottawa, ON, Canada
City/State/Country you're getting married in (if different): Same
Your song/First Dance song: Undecided
Wedding Colors: Royal blue and very pale rose gold
Formality: Fairly formal
Theme (if you have one): None
Number of guests: 130 max
How'd you meet your fiance?: We were part of a youth parliament together
How long have you been together?: 6 years
Do you have a personal wedding website?: Not yet!
Have you read the community rules before posting this survey and do you agree to follow them? Yes to both
Anything else you'd like to tell us?: It's going to be an interesting family blend. Neither side has met each other yet. His father was a United Church minister for many many years, his family all goes to church, and neither of his parents have so much as tasted alcohol. No one in my family goes to church and the last family wedding we were all at together was marked by a hangover brunch (including parents) the next day. My parents are also divorced (dad is remarried, mom is engaged), so my biggest concern is the blending of all the different groups.
I'm currently about eight months out and trying to finalize my already-insane schedule up until the wedding day. I was hoping you could chime in and give me some things you may have forgotten or things that you think it will be easy to forget, so I can make sure I have them covered.
Thanks in advance! :o)
The nerves have seriously kicked in! I constantly feel like I'm one small disaster away from a panic attack. Or some sort of cardiac episode.
Last week I developed an eye infection. Which is nothing new for me. And it turned into a huge cyst on my eyelid. Which again is nothing new, but they don't go away on their own for me. I have to have them surgically removed. So I'm stressing about make up that will help conceal it. Add that to the rest of the of the stress and ive broken out in excema. On my face. Yaaaaay.
Other than my underskirt being too short (fixed now) and being unable to do anything other than walk in a straight line in my dress (hook being attached tomorrow) my outfit is great! I cant wait for FH to see me in my dress.
I have a blackboard to make (yes make!!) And table decorations to sort out into boxes for each table. Then I need to finalise playlists. Then drop it all off at the venue on Friday. Which might be a bit complicated since there's a wedding on that day too. But thats pretty much it! I've been having nightmares for months that I'll be running round the morning of the day realising I've forgotten to get really important things like rings or a dress.
Wish me luck!
I hope your wedding plans are going smoothly!
So my FH and I don’t have a traditional registry – we have one set up at Honeyfund for our honeymoon. However, my bridesmaids are throwing me a shower and I have no idea what to do about that! It’d be super awkward for everyone to just show up with money, but then again I don’t really need a lot of household things. We don’t have a house yet, and our apartment really has everything it needs.
What I really would like is just some things to bring/wear on our honeymoon, etc. I really need some lingerie but that’s weird to me to open in front of a lot of people.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Aside from my intro post, I've never really made an actual post on here but I have a serious etiquette question.
Two days ago, I resigned from my job...which I wasn't planning on doing until after our wedding. We're about two months away and invitations will be going out in a week or so. My question is...I sent STDs to several coworkers, who are obviously now former coworkers. I didn't leave under pleasant circumstances and truthfully, I don't want any reminders of the job, so do I still need to invite them? I know you're supposed to follow up on STDs with invitations but I'm just wondering if this would be considered an exception.
Thanks in advance!
Just a reminder, I'm Jen. Haven't been posting much here, but I'm an avid reader! Here are the couple posts I've made that are most relevant, probably:
Progress Post #1
I'll probably do another progress post 200 days out or so, but not too much has changed! I did get my dress but it's a little small at the moment sooo I'll post a pic whenever it fits (hopefully sometime this summer)!
Josh (FH) and I had our engagement photos done over the weekend. The full album is here, but I thought I'd share a few with you guys here too. :o)
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Sorry for the bajillion pics, I just love them so much. Thanks for reading/viewing! :o)
Recap: Whistler Canada wedding. 94 guests. Goal was to create a warm and cozy kind of feel to our wedding day, and we were successful. Our ceremony was right in front of a huge roaring fireplace (our celebrant had to ask us to move forward as her "buns were burning". Our ceremony space was snug, but it made it so everyone could be closer to us. It rained. Yeah....wasn't thrilled with that. But we made do with big umbrellas. They ended up making it so we got some great photos!
Anyway, if you are interested, click on the link below! I promise it won't take up much of your time :)
Teaser picture (sorry if it is huge!):
Like most brides, I do have some regrets about having a few shots that our photographer didn't get. But I'm doing my best to focus on all the other really good ones instead!
We are still looking for our rehearsal dinner location, which hit a few snags when his mom kept adding people to the guest list. We got emails back from two places that look promising.
After having some issues with our hotel room block, we finally got that all settled.
His ring is in. Mine is still on its way. This is my ring.
We're in the last bit of addressing and assembling the invitations, and that is where I hit some drama.
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Bride/Groom/Otherw (please specify): Bride
Age: 29, will be 31 by then
City/State/Country you live in: Upstate NY
City/State/Country you're getting married in (if different): Same
Your song/First Dance song:Not sure yet
Wedding Colors:I know I want a dark red, not sure what else
Theme (if you have one):Woodsy
Number of guests: We want it under 100, but most likely 120
How'd you meet your fiance?: He worked at a bar next door to my parents house, I had too much to drink and kissed him
How long have you been together?: Almost 6 years
Do you have a personal wedding website?: Not yet
Have you read the community rules before posting this survey and do you agree to follow them? Yes
Anything else you'd like to tell us?: I'm probably going to have a lot of questions and will take any suggestions, especially about cutting costs.
Hi everyone! I was in this community a million (8) years ago when I was engaged and now I come to you as a bridesmaid.
Our darling bride wants us in pink knee length chiffon. This won't look good on 99% of the world, but oh well, whatever she wants.
However, the favorite dresses are these two from J. Crew but they're pricy. Anyone here looking at the same dresses and found something cheaper?
Name and/or LJ userID: Amber
Wedding Date: 09/28/14 (probably...will know for sure next week)
Bride/Groom/Other (please specify): bride
City/State/Country you live in: Nashville, TN
City/State/Country you're getting married in (if different): Nashville
Your song/First Dance song: I think we're actually not going to have dancing. I'm looking into alternative entertainment ideas. I'm really uncomfortable with the idea of all those people staring at me while I attempt to dance, and I just decided I really don't want to do anything I'm uncomfortable with on my wedding day. Plus, I know my dad would be just as, if not more so, uncomfortable as me for the father/daughter dance, and my fiance's mother is deceased. It'll probably be a Sunday afternoon anyway, so no crazy rager needed :)
Wedding Colors: Undecided, but I'm leaning toward blues and greens with a little yellow. My plan is to do as little decorating as humanly possible, so I'm choosing a venue that won't require much.
Formality: casual-ish. My family would still get dressed up even if I requested casual dress, and I'm going to have a long lacy number on. The reception itself will not be formal in any way though. We're not formal people.
Theme (if you have one): Vintage, but laid-back Southern style. I love lace and I have a lot of cute DIY ideas that look vintage (thank you, Pinterest). We're also having the wedding at a historical house.
Number of guests: Probably less than 100. We have a small group of friends and co-workers we're inviting. I have a large family, but I know a lot of them won't be able to come. My fiance's family is all out-of-state so only a few of them will make it.
How'd you meet your fiance?: Heh. Myspace. Back when that was thing. We chatted online and talked on the phone for several months and then decided to go ahead and meet. Instant sparkage.
How long have you been together?: Almost 6 years. We met in April.
Do you have a personal wedding website?: Not yet, I'm waiting until I have the venue booked and the date is official.
Have you read the community rules before posting this survey and do you agree to follow them? yup!
Anything else you'd like to tell us?: We've been discussing marriage for about 4-5 years now, so this has been a long time coming. I'm excited to officially be engaged and start this planning process! Also, browsing through some of the posts here, it's nice to see lots of other people who dated for a long time before getting engaged. It's very unusual around here where I live, and it seems like it's a rarity on other online forums I've visited. I feel like a lot of people I know (even some family members) judge my relationship for it, which is frustrating.
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We had a great day! The photography was provided for the price of a plane ticket by my good friend Cat, of Photography by Cat who came to Minnesota from the bay area. I highly recommend her! She is tons of fun! The staff at the Afton House was great, and of course the coordinator at Bethlehem Lutheran in Bayport was amazing! So that was my wedding day!
SO, my wedding was this past weekend and it was amazeballs! It seriously went better than I could have ever hoped for. Everything ran smoothly, there were no hiccups (that I knew about) and I got to marry my best friend...oh and have a big party as well! It rained on our day, which is hugely ironic considering we had picked Whistler (in Canada) as a venue because in the fall it doesn't rain much there....but the weather in our hometown on that day was beautiful. Go figure. But it didn't dampen spirits at all. We just bought some big umbrellas and went stomping around in the rain and snow for our pictures. The ceremony was a blur, the reception even more of a blur because it all went by so fast. I tried to do my best to take it all in and remember the little things, but when you have so many people to talk to it becomes kind of hard to do that. I'll have to rely on pictures to help me out. My biggest piece of advice, if you can afford it, is to have a "day of coordinator". Someone who will take care of all the decor set up, the vendors, the guests, any situations that come up, and it can leave you time to just relax and enjoy getting prettied up and in your dress.
We had an amazing long weekend with late nights and early starts, and part of me wishes I had taken this week off work to recover and catch up on sleep...but I've got the honeymoon in January that I can relax on!
We have only received one teaser picture from our photographer of our "first look" at one another. The rest of the pictures I'm sharing are ones our guests took throughout the evening.
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I have 4 bridesmaids. My best friend from uni who is my MOH (B), then another friend from uni (J), my best friend from HS (K) and my sister (C).
B and K have been really supportive. K got married herself in August and was helping me with my own wedding plans when she was 2 weeks away from her own wedding. B quite happily drives me around to places I need to be.. helps me makes invitations, came with me to find my dress, made the BM bouquets with me.
But C and J have been no where to be seen. J has yet to come try on her bridesmaid dress, which I bought 3 months ago. Which to be fair won't fit her now anyway because she's just told me she's 6 weeks pregnant (my wedding is in April). C is just non-existent in my wedding plans, unless it's something I take to her house for her or her 2 daughters to try on.
I'm having to plan my own hen party. And pay for it. And everyone else until they give me the money.
And now J and C aren't coming. I understand J not coming because we going partying, but C is just saying she doesn't have a babysitter. My hen party is in February, and SHE LIVES WITH HER DAUGHTER'S FATHER. It feels like she's just making an excuse. It really hurts that my own sister won't come to my hen party.
I'm trying really hard not to turn into a bridezilla. I know they all have lives outside of my wedding. They have jobs and partners and kids and pregnant bellies. But I kinda feel like they just want to walk down the aisle in a pretty dress and have me spend loads of money on them and just not help me at all.
I'm kinda going through a lot right now. I have various niggling health issues, my dad died less than a year ago and they all know I'm finding it really hard to plan my wedding without him, and 2 of them (including my sister) know I'm currently going through therapy to try to deal with mood disorder that keeps rearing its ugly head.
It just gets me that I chose these 4 because they're 4 of the 5 adults (the 5th being my fiance lol) I love the most in the world, that I'm closest too and they just either don't realise that by me asking them to come with to various wedding planning appointments with me that I want them to be a part of the planning, or they just don't care.