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bouquet memory lockets

what is the etiquette for honoring loved ones who have passed on with a memory locket for your bouquet? i thought at first i wanted to have one locket with both of my grandmothers pictured inside, but then i realized i was leaving people out. basically all of my biological grandparents are dead, but of course there is some family drama along with that and i'm not sure of what's appropriate. my mom's parents died when i was two. my dad never met his biological father until he was forty years old, when i was about ten, and only knew him for four years before he died. my dad's mother died two years ago.

now... if i am to honor everyone, do i get two lockets with four pictures? and if so, do i put my maternal grandparents together, and then my paternal grandparents together -- who were divorced by the time my dad was two? or should i get some sort of singular "lockets" for those two and hang them on their own?

i also was wondering where you can find these little lockets (i don't need anything real, just charms for the bouquet, obviously) and how much you guys have spent on them.

TIA!

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bratlet
Jul. 22nd, 2008 05:33 am (UTC)
i would go with who's important to you. Dont let family drama make you feel that you "have" to do something. :o)

I will have one on my bouquet but it will only be of my grandmother who passed away 3 years ago. She played a very active role in my life, and i will be the first grandchild (hopefully) to get married in her church.

Ive had other family members pass away but i dont feel that im close enough to them to have something done "in memory" of them.

I'll be using something like this:
http://www.myjeanm.com/engine.cfm?iCatID=36678
and i may also use her rosary beads as well, but im still unsure on that part...
evolutionary_me
Jul. 22nd, 2008 03:44 pm (UTC)
we'll probably get those. thanks so much for the link! i like the little frame a lot better than a locket actually.
bratlet
Jul. 22nd, 2008 04:58 pm (UTC)
no prob. And the price isnt bad either.
poekitty
Jul. 22nd, 2008 06:20 am (UTC)
I dont see anything wrong with just putting your nearest and dearest in the locket. If i were to have a locket on my bouquet, it would just have my one grandma in it, cuz she meant the most to me.
evolutionary_me
Jul. 22nd, 2008 03:45 pm (UTC)
sweet!
dana_pants
Jul. 22nd, 2008 07:23 am (UTC)
I agree with the others - focus on those who were important in your life. While others in my family have died, the only person I'm honoring is my father, because frankly he was the only one who really played an important role in my life.
evolutionary_me
Jul. 22nd, 2008 03:45 pm (UTC)
good call!
loving_martinis
Jul. 22nd, 2008 11:41 am (UTC)
I got my picture charm from Etsy. Only honor those who you were close to. I consider the bouquet charms a personal memorial. The only individuals who will probably know about your memorial charms are those who you told. I have a photo charm of my Father. All my biological grandparents are deceased, 3 of them were deceased before I was conceived, 1 really didn't care to get to know me. I'm only honoring my Father.
evolutionary_me
Jul. 22nd, 2008 03:46 pm (UTC)
that's true. the only people who we've told about it so far are our mothers... our parents and the photographer will likely be the only ones who know about it.
starwhitelemon
Jul. 22nd, 2008 12:12 pm (UTC)
I got my locket from classiclindsey on etsy. her lockets are gorgeous.. this is the one she made for me. :)
http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=13034054
evolutionary_me
Jul. 22nd, 2008 03:46 pm (UTC)
very nice!
_shaomao_
Jul. 22nd, 2008 01:00 pm (UTC)
I plan on having a locket for my brother on my bouquet. We are going to do a memorial table at the reception hall as well, and that is where we will have pictures of our grandparents etc. I also plan on having a picture of my brother on the table too.

As for lockets, I also suggest etsy -- I have been looking at some lockets by classiclindsey myself!
evolutionary_me
Jul. 22nd, 2008 03:47 pm (UTC)
i love etsy -- so much.
septsix08
Jul. 22nd, 2008 02:20 pm (UTC)
I have had great luck finding lockets in a vintage/second hand store downtown in my area. I've also purchased lockets from etsy.com (if you just type in "lockets" under search it will come up with tons of hits).

I sort of collect lockets and wanted to include them in my wedding so I and all of my bridesmaids will have one around our bouquets. The ones I bought for them I found at Wet Seal for $7 each. Granted, they are a very ugly gold color, but I've had it in my mind that I'm going to try to "antique" them. My other lockets have ranged from $10 - 28. The highest being the locket I bought from etsy seller glitteryblue.

I don't think there is any "etiquette" involved in this situation. It's whoever you want to put in your locket to have close to you.
evolutionary_me
Jul. 22nd, 2008 03:47 pm (UTC)
that's a really cool idea!
mando323
Jul. 22nd, 2008 03:09 pm (UTC)
evolutionary_me
Jul. 22nd, 2008 03:48 pm (UTC)
that's really pretty. it's more than i can afford, but that will look GORGEOUS on your bouquet! :)
mando323
Jul. 22nd, 2008 03:53 pm (UTC)
I plan to put a picture of my Grandpa in it, and then I"m going to give it to my Grandma after the wedding, so I decided to splurge a little. Thanks! Good luck finding one, there are some great ideas on here!
duhitstaken2
Jul. 22nd, 2008 03:35 pm (UTC)
Have you thought about a memory table instead of lockets? With an arrangment of flowers and pictures of your grandparents? You can even write something up and frame it to go with the pictures. I've always thought that was really sweet.
evolutionary_me
Jul. 22nd, 2008 03:40 pm (UTC)
that's a little formal for what we're doing... and we don't have that much room, so all the tables are already allocated. we just wanted a little something to let them know that we wish they were here. (and it's more private as well.)
deceptiverose
Jul. 25th, 2008 03:35 pm (UTC)
Doing lockets like that is a very personal thing. It isn't even something that everyone needs to know you're doing. So if you only put the grandparents you were close to, that's fine.
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