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Having your period on your wedding day

According to my 28 on the dot cycle, the first day of my cycle will be on our wedding day! =(

So those that have already been married, or expect to have their period on their wedding day...or know anyone that had their period on their wedding day, are there any ideas on how to cope?  With a big almost WHITE dress, I fear accidents happening.  I already plan on wearing some type of form fitting shorts to absob sweat, but it will also act as double protection. 

So any ideas on what you will wear and what you will do to help make it more bearable?  I know it's such a slight thing to even think about compared to the whole picture, but in the back of my mind I don't want to have to worry about my dress.

While we are on the topic, if you are wearing shorts of any kind under your dress, what kind?   A brand/description/picture/where to buy would be helpful.  Thanks in advance!

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thejoysofjess
Aug. 30th, 2008 08:34 pm (UTC)
I honestly just wore bike shorts under my dress. I got them at target and I put my long line bra over them. I didn't really need them for shaping, just sweat absorption. (Hooray chub rub!). They worked fantastically. My dress was a-line and I wore a hoop skirt, so even though they were black, they didn't show through. If you are wearing a more form fitting dress, I'd suggest finding either a flesh colored pair or wearing spanx.
fatbottomgrl
Aug. 30th, 2008 08:42 pm (UTC)
this is exactly what i did! i had a long shapewear garment that snapped in the crotch and it was a little uncomfortable. so i wore my shorts (beige bike shorts from kmart) under it and it also helped with my thighs rubbing. i am so glad i did.
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shandriz
Aug. 30th, 2008 08:52 pm (UTC)
I'm gonna be timing my period to make sure I can't have it day-of (that is, taking my white "Active" pills two weeks before the wedding, no matter where I'm actually at in my cycle.). But, I probably will still be wearing shorts, just 'cause I always wear shorts under dresses. xD I'll probably get a pair of lighter coloured ones, though, since all the short-enough shorts I own (for this purpose and for pjs) are too dark and would show underneath my light blue dress. xD
kimie_catclaw
Aug. 30th, 2008 09:01 pm (UTC)
I thought I was going to have to do that (with my pills), because the month before the wedding I had TWO periods. My cycle tends to reset itself in times of stress (like wedding planning, apparently), but I just kept take my pills normally and had my period at its normal time-- starting two days after the wedding. SO glad we didn't go on our honeymoon right away, haha. XDD
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mma04c
Aug. 30th, 2008 08:52 pm (UTC)
are you already on the pill? if not, get on it and start taking them 3 packs at a time (its perfectly healthy to do so) that way you can skip over a period, a very important one!
adamantplatypus
Aug. 30th, 2008 09:03 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I think what you're trying to say is take three packs in a row, skipping the "off week" from each pack. Yes, it is safe to do, but I can't say I'd condone BC JUST for this reason alone.
mommy_i
Aug. 30th, 2008 09:11 pm (UTC)
no. I have an IUD in place. So I dont think the doc would give me pills to skip a period if I already have an IUD =(
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amyrebeccah
Aug. 30th, 2008 09:06 pm (UTC)
A good friend of mine had hers the day of. She was just extra careful, but she said it didn't really put a damper on anything.
mommy_i
Aug. 30th, 2008 09:19 pm (UTC)
that's great. I just have heavy periods so I'm just paranoid of having an accident while going to the restroom and changing tampons...sorry tmi
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virushuman
Aug. 30th, 2008 09:49 pm (UTC)
Try a menstrual cup if you're really worried about problems with your period. I got a Diva Cup, but there's tons of other bands you can pick from. I would suggest buying it a month or two before your wedding to get past the "learning curve" of it. It's the best thing I've bought for myself in a long, LOOONG time.
marlenerossiter
Aug. 30th, 2008 10:15 pm (UTC)
IAWTC.

I love my Diva Cup too and I will be on my period on my wedding day and the travel day of our honeymoon. I honestly dont mind being on my period because you dont even have to think about the cup. You can leave it in for 12hrs. I'm also on the NuvaRing. I dont skip periods, but I heard that you can "stack" rings...maybe you can look into that?
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ohhjuliet
Aug. 30th, 2008 10:06 pm (UTC)
Are you on the pill? I think I wouldn't take the placebo pills and I'd just keep right on taking the active pills. :)
mommy_i
Aug. 30th, 2008 10:09 pm (UTC)
no, I have an IUD in place.
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leeanna0917
Aug. 30th, 2008 10:46 pm (UTC)
I got my period on my wedding day, and it wasn't even supposed to come at that time. Thanks, stress!! It wasn't a big deal for me. About an hour before the wedding I had to have a couple of my bridesmaids hold up my dress while I put in a super duper tampon, haha. Ah, memories. Anyway it was pretty light, so I was good for the rest of the night. I'd say that if it does happen, and you want to be safe, use a big tampon and a small pad for backup, and have one of your bridesmaids remind you to take a potty break sometime during the reception-you'll be ok.

What did suck was that we left for our honeymoon the next day :(
kimie_catclaw
Aug. 31st, 2008 12:08 am (UTC)
I swear, our bodies plot against us. For years, it seemed like I was always on my period for our anniversary, or Christmas, or our birthdays...! *fist-shake*
morning_stand
Aug. 31st, 2008 02:07 am (UTC)
i take a birth control that is proven to be totally safe and i have NO PERIODS EVERRRR. EVERRRRRRRRRRRRRR. sometimes I spot a little bit if i miss a pill. but that's about it :) it's called Lybrel. I looooooove it :)

I would look into it if you're super concerned. honestly, it's awesome. I recommend nothing less LOL.

People ask me, "but isn't that WEIRD?" and I say, nope :) Just super convenient.
amyrebeccah
Aug. 31st, 2008 07:56 am (UTC)
I'm afraid no hormonal birth control is totally safe for everyone. I can't take anything with estrogen because my family history makes that too dangerous (both my mom and her sister had pulmonary embolism).

Do you mean that the practice of skipping periods is totally safe? Because if so, I can understand where you're coming from there. I know there's a lot of misconceptions about "having to bleed".
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blueberryeyes17
Aug. 31st, 2008 02:30 am (UTC)
I use a menstrual cup and I am comfortable that it will not leak on me on our wedding day if I have my period then. But I will probably wear a pantiliner as backup. It's never leaked before on me so I don't know why it would start then - but with my luck it might since it's such an important day haha.
blueberryeyes17
Aug. 31st, 2008 02:31 am (UTC)
Oh I see someone else above mentioned cups, too. There's a community for them on LJ if you're interested, there is a TON of information there.
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normanee
Aug. 31st, 2008 03:11 am (UTC)
I just adjusted my bc b/c i was worried about this. I was like, no big I will just miss this months period and be set the week before the wedding and honeymoon. To bad I still had my period anyways. >>;
malsywals
Aug. 31st, 2008 03:26 am (UTC)
i got mine the night before my wedding! my sister (and maid of honour) gave me some of her comfy pants to wear under my dress. they were like capri length, but oh so comfy and they made it bearable. i was worried that you'd be able to see them through the dress, but you couldn't! only she and i were the wiser!
mierandra
Aug. 31st, 2008 07:15 pm (UTC)
I'm another one with pretty bad endometriosis on the pill not for birth control but for how much it helps regulate everything and make it bearable. It *never* hurts to ask, but if you ask and your doctor says yes, start on them in time to finish a cycle before the cycle you have the wedding in. Some people have problems taking artificial hormones and you don't always know until you take something you have a problem with- timing it that way will give you a chance to know if there's going to be serious problems in time to get back off it before the wedding!
abigezunt
Sep. 1st, 2008 06:31 pm (UTC)
i had my period on my wedding day. it was totally fine. i worried a lot during the month leading up to it (i figured out that it was inevitable when i got my period 28 days before the wedding :) and thought about trying hormonal birth control just to switch my periods around. i'm glad i didn't bother. i got my period, wore my keeper, and it was fine. we left for our honeymoon two days after the wedding, and by the time we got there, my period was over and i was ready to - erm - party, so to speak.

(i wouldn't recommend switching to a keeper or diva cup and trying to use it for the first time on your wedding, though - there's a learning curve and it's hard enough going to the bathroom in a poofy dress! stick with your normal period routine.)

if you're worried about having a bleed-through accident, take solace in the fact that you probably rarely have period accidents anyway, and even if you did, there's no way that anything could get through all the layers of your wedding dress. i guess it wouldn't hurt to have a get away outfit lined up, for peace of mind and also in case your wedding dress gets hot or uncomfortable or gets in the way of your dancing.

just think - having your period on your wedding day will make you feel like a gorgeous fertility goddess, and isn't that what everyone wants on their wedding day? :)
abigezunt
Sep. 1st, 2008 06:34 pm (UTC)
oh, also, i have another friend who had her period on her wedding day. no bleed-throughs, and she looked gorgeous as you would expect any bride to be.

one benefit - since you have your period now (i'm assuming - 28 days to go, right?) why not try on your dress now to be sure it fits. lots of women fluctuate in size based on time of the month, so if you fit into your dress now and it feels gorgeous on, you can feel confident that you will fit into it the same way next month, right?
decembertyger
Sep. 2nd, 2008 07:50 am (UTC)
I have heavy periods also and I have been thinking about this problem myself. I am going to TRY to regulate with my BC pills to skip it if it comes up that week but I am not holding my breath. When I stress (which I know I will be right about then) My period comes when it wants to and to heck with what i want. That being said, I plan to double up on the overnight protection pads for the day. I get the super thin ones and don't usually have an issue with them. If your going to try one of those cups or something I'd start a period or two BEFORE your wedding cuse I understand there is a learning curve with them and that is not the day to take off the training wheels if ya know what i mean!
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