growingsumroots ([info]growingsumroots) wrote in [info]weddingplans,
2012-01-27 13:03:00
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Is no one is safe from wedding planning anxiety?

I feel like I am a very low key bride planning a very chill wedding and yet I have started having dreams/nightmares that it is the day of wedding and my dress falls apart and we forgot to hire a dj or a caterer and we are grabbing cds to play on a boombox and ordering pizza and....

Could it be true that no one, not even the simplest of brides, can escape wedding planning anxiety?
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[info]itslily

January 27 2012, 18:07:42 UTC 3 months ago

The brain works in mysterious ways when it comes to dreams! I have "anxiety" dreams about things I'm not really stressed about, either. I wouldn't worry about it so much! I'm a very low key bride as well, wedding planning has been insanely easy(and I am having a much shorter engagement than most typical couples these days), but I still get the occasional funny dream. :)

[info]starzysky

January 27 2012, 18:40:54 UTC 3 months ago

Yeah -- I've tried to be super low key about all of this (we had 18 months to plan from engagement to I Do!) but every time I spend some time seriously planning (well--even just a few hours looking up local florists and pics of flowers I like), I have dreams about it at night. So far just planning stress dreams, no wedding day disaster dreams... but at this rate, it's going to drive me crazy.

[info]crazydiamond42

January 27 2012, 18:44:02 UTC 3 months ago

Yup. We're having a low key, late morning wedding on a ranch and I have the same dreams. In one, we were late because we realised at the last minute that it was our wedding day, and we had nothing...no chairs, no food; just some very uncomfortable guests.

[info]ms_golightly86

January 27 2012, 19:01:02 UTC 3 months ago

It seems once I start getting comfortable with where I am in the planning process is the moment I start having nightmares about not being prepared! By the comments above me, it seems pretty common, which makes me feel better, too!

[info]givemethechild

January 27 2012, 19:21:54 UTC 3 months ago

Sorry to hear you're having anxieties. I think it's pretty much unavoidable, to be honest. I was super chill about the wedding but started having anxiety dreams about waking up on the big day to find out I'd completely forgotten to get flowers. In the dream I would run all over town getting those cheap five-dollar bouquets and cannibalizing them to make proper wedding arrangements. By the time the real wedding rolled around, I knew I was totally prepared to deal with it if my flowers didn't work out, lol.

[info]oh_muffy

January 27 2012, 20:29:33 UTC 3 months ago

I was a super laid back bride & I still had those dreams! I guess it just comes with the territory! haha

[info]simplybitterswt

January 27 2012, 22:25:33 UTC 3 months ago

I was totally low-key, laid back, did not care if things went wrong (and they totally did but not for my lack of planning or anxiety, though) and I still had 2 nightmares while I was planning. One was about my wedding and one was about my best friend/MOH's wedding, who got married a month before me (and I was her MOH). I laughed them off but they did kick my butt into gear about a few things I had been waiting on. For example, in my dream about her wedding, I forgot to buy my dress because I was so busy planning my own wedding. So I went out the weekend after I had the dream and bought my bridesmaids dress so I could clear it off my mind. lol I think subconciously, we're more anxious than we are aware of.

[info]mistresscatgirl

January 27 2012, 22:56:21 UTC 3 months ago

In the last week, I've had nightmares about my reception. We've been married for a year and I feel nervous. Even when we eloped I didn't feel this nervous. My biggest fear is that things won't go as planned and everything will fall apart. No matter what I think it being our weddings, we will stress out about something or other. Having someone to help you keep track of things will make it easy on you. I've started a list of all the things we need to get/pack before we travel home.

[info]foreveranever

January 28 2012, 00:56:54 UTC 3 months ago

You're definitely not the only one!

My wedding is 9 months away, I am super ambivalent about the whole thing (I'd be happy with a tailgate reception lol!), and I'm having nightmares about things like guests not showing or rings going missing or my dress ripping....

Hang in there ;)

[info]smashleyloureed

January 28 2012, 01:42:05 UTC 3 months ago

Ha, I had absolutely no anxiety about our wedding day.
Day-of, no one believed me when I said I wasn't nervous. But, in my head, the true commitment happened when he said "will you?" and I said "yes", so that part wasn't scary. And as for plans, I'd done my part and if I'd messed something up and something went wrong, what was I going to do about it at that point?

I'm usually a worry-wart, so my reaction to our wedding day really surprised me.

[info]severus

January 28 2012, 11:59:49 UTC 3 months ago

I felt the same way as all of this! My hairdresser even showed up 2 hours late and I was just about to start doing my hair myself when she finally showed up. I didn't panic once. I knew that no matter what I was still getting married, the rest was whatever!

[info]ltnoin

January 28 2012, 03:45:37 UTC 3 months ago

I keep having dreams where I show up to the ceremony, but I forgot to write my vows! It seems these kinds of dreams are reaaaaally common!

[info]sallerina

January 28 2012, 18:03:04 UTC 3 months ago

I think the dreams are almost universal. Every bride I know personally has confessed to having them. I thought it was ridiculous before getting engaged, but then I had one of my own - that all my toenails fell off on the morning of the wedding and I had to wear these giant Skechers sneakers that I had back in college.

[info]growingsumroots

January 29 2012, 18:37:27 UTC 3 months ago

Thanks everyone. Hearing that these dreams are quite common really does make me feel a lot better. It's nice to know I am not going crazy!
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