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Money Dance?

Are you guys gonna have a money dance at the reception?

My gut screams, "Tacky! Poor taste!" when I think about it, but my head says, "If the guests don't think it's tacky, you're a fool for not jumping on the wagon..."

What are you guys planning to do?

Wow. I left to go Christmas shopping and came back to find all those comments! Eek!

First of all, I really wasn't intending to be inflammatory on any level. I truly apologize if my word choice offended anyone.

The tradition was something I'd never even heard of until my two wedding planner-type ladies mentioned it. They didn't indicate that it was any type of cultural thing. They actually said everyone does it and thought we'd be crazy not to.

Well, since I knew that my family a) had never included a money/dollar dance in their celebrations, and b) are also incredibly uptight about money, I figured I'd ask you folks how common it is and get a feel from there...

All I know is that it sounds like a tradition that my immediate family would prefer I opt out of - and the last thing I need from them is another fight about the wedding! I guess I'll just stick with my own family's tradition of treating money (and the taking thereof) as a very private, personal, taboo subject.


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Dec. 16th, 2007 11:13 pm (UTC)
I intend on having one. It's a tradition on my side but not on the groom's side. We are hoping to let the immediate family on the groom's side the traditions we intend to include (including the money dance) so that word can spread around and no one will be clueless come the reception!

We expect that there may be stingy relatives, but it's all in the fun of the dance! $1 or $100, as long as we get to party!

Edited at 2007-12-16 11:13 pm (UTC)
Dec. 17th, 2007 12:21 am (UTC)
oh noz
I think the problem is that people think when someone is getting married that they are begging for money and everything. When the fact of the matter most wedding cost the couple a good deal more than anything that they'll get for gifts. And you know what that's ok because it is about being able to share your happiness at finding the love of your life with your family and friends. We will be doing a dollar dance my FH is Italian it is not out of place or unwelcome for us to do so. But I have been the same way about feeling like I'm begging for money but my FH put it very nicely when he said: We are being helped out because we are the young couple starting out, we help out other couples as much as we can at the moment and when we have kids and they have kids we will help them out. If you look at gifts and the dollar dance as a family cycle than that certainly lessens the shame and tackiness imho.
*rant finished*
Dec. 17th, 2007 01:21 am (UTC)
Tacky! But, my fiance was all for the "bite for a buck" at the bachelorette party.
Dec. 17th, 2007 05:39 am (UTC)
Why not just have a Money Tree? That way if people want to give you money then they can and don't feel obligated to give money to dance with the bride/groom. I've never even heard of it before now..

I don't think it's tacky per se but I wouldn't have it at my own wedding. If you think people will dissapprove then it might be a good idea not to have it as a part of your wedding. But, in the end it's up to you and your FH to decide.

Good luck!
Dec. 18th, 2007 12:02 am (UTC)
According to etiquitte, a money tree is considered tacky, def more tacky than a dollar dance, which is far more personal. No one should feel obligated for the dollar dance, especially if they really want to dance w/ the bride or groom, they'll find a chance. If they don't want to give them a dollar, there isn't an obligation. Its just a nice gesture! Especially because I'm sure that people will be including money in cards too.
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