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Money Dance?

Are you guys gonna have a money dance at the reception?

My gut screams, "Tacky! Poor taste!" when I think about it, but my head says, "If the guests don't think it's tacky, you're a fool for not jumping on the wagon..."

What are you guys planning to do?

Wow. I left to go Christmas shopping and came back to find all those comments! Eek!

First of all, I really wasn't intending to be inflammatory on any level. I truly apologize if my word choice offended anyone.

The tradition was something I'd never even heard of until my two wedding planner-type ladies mentioned it. They didn't indicate that it was any type of cultural thing. They actually said everyone does it and thought we'd be crazy not to.

Well, since I knew that my family a) had never included a money/dollar dance in their celebrations, and b) are also incredibly uptight about money, I figured I'd ask you folks how common it is and get a feel from there...

All I know is that it sounds like a tradition that my immediate family would prefer I opt out of - and the last thing I need from them is another fight about the wedding! I guess I'll just stick with my own family's tradition of treating money (and the taking thereof) as a very private, personal, taboo subject.


Dec. 16th, 2007 02:37 pm (UTC)
I think it's one of those things where it's okay if it's a family tradition, but otherwise comes across as quite tacky. In our case, I'd never even HEARD of it until this comm, so we definitely won't be doing it.
Dec. 16th, 2007 02:46 pm (UTC)
Yeah... I hadn't heard of it until the wedding planners at the place we're getting married mentioned it.
They were like, "No! It's totally normal! You really should do it! Families love that!" and I'm like, "Um... my family wouldn't."
I think I'll go with my gut.
Dec. 16th, 2007 02:57 pm (UTC)
It's not totally normal- it's a regional/cultural thing and I think that if you haven't heard of it, many of your guests might not have, either, thereby making it not only tacky (because you're explicitly asking for money for them to spend time with you) but also confusing. I think it's okay if it's family tradition and your family/friends expect you to, but if you've never heard of it... it's probably best to leave it out.
Dec. 16th, 2007 03:04 pm (UTC)
Exactly. I think both families would be quite surprised by it - and I'm not in the mood to have my wedding be the beginning of that tradition in either family. :)
Dec. 16th, 2007 09:21 pm (UTC)
Agreed, cultural/family tradition = ok otherwise highly tasteless.


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