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Money Dance?

Are you guys gonna have a money dance at the reception?

My gut screams, "Tacky! Poor taste!" when I think about it, but my head says, "If the guests don't think it's tacky, you're a fool for not jumping on the wagon..."

What are you guys planning to do?

Wow. I left to go Christmas shopping and came back to find all those comments! Eek!

First of all, I really wasn't intending to be inflammatory on any level. I truly apologize if my word choice offended anyone.

The tradition was something I'd never even heard of until my two wedding planner-type ladies mentioned it. They didn't indicate that it was any type of cultural thing. They actually said everyone does it and thought we'd be crazy not to.

Well, since I knew that my family a) had never included a money/dollar dance in their celebrations, and b) are also incredibly uptight about money, I figured I'd ask you folks how common it is and get a feel from there...

All I know is that it sounds like a tradition that my immediate family would prefer I opt out of - and the last thing I need from them is another fight about the wedding! I guess I'll just stick with my own family's tradition of treating money (and the taking thereof) as a very private, personal, taboo subject.


Dec. 16th, 2007 02:49 pm (UTC)
Regardless of whether or not it is a family tradition, I'm sorry if I offend anyone, but yes, money dances/dollar dances are just about the tackiest thing I have ever heard of. I knew a guy who phrased it the best when he said that he would never whore out his wife in a money dance. Think about it, people give you dollars in exchange for a little dancing with the new bride. Ew.
I'm all for getting money- just set up a card box.

Then again, that's just my opinion and everyone gets to have one :)
Dec. 16th, 2007 03:02 pm (UTC)
I think maybe my family does it differently. People can choose to dance with either the bride or groom. There is usually one line for each.
Dec. 16th, 2007 03:19 pm (UTC)
Yes, it's definitely not just whoring out the bride! Every wedding I've been to has a line for both the bride and the groom. It's kind of an easy/informal alternative to a super stuffy receiving line.
Dec. 18th, 2007 08:25 pm (UTC)
That's not as bad :)
Dec. 16th, 2007 04:14 pm (UTC)

dancing =/= sex

never has, never will.
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Dec. 16th, 2007 09:54 pm (UTC)
this may well be, but since primae noctis never existed outside of myth, i sincerely doubt that the dollar dance bears any similarity to this.
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Dec. 18th, 2007 08:26 pm (UTC)
I didn't say it does. But the idea of being paid to spend a little time with someone isn't appealing to me either. The phrase wasn't mine, it was some guy I knew, as I stated above.
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Dec. 16th, 2007 05:00 pm (UTC)
Lets not start fights. Opinions are opinions and lets be cool guys. She should be respectful of this tradition but you should be respectful of her opinion also.. It's a two way kind of thing.
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Dec. 16th, 2007 06:57 pm (UTC)
I'm very glad you posted this comment. I've never seen the "money dance" as a formal tradition so this is interesting to me. My family does it as part of their "Cajun weddings", but I don't know how common the tradition is with other Cajun families.
Dec. 18th, 2007 08:40 pm (UTC)
Whoah, whoah whoah. I am not speaking about your specific variation of the tradition is, nor to anyones. I get the concept, I get how it started and I get what it is supposed to mean. However, I still think it is tacky. Hey, in my culture the bride is supposed to walk around handing little bits of ribbon that are supposed to represent her purity to everyone in attendance. It's my culture, and I think it is tacky as well.

As I said, everyone is entitled to an opinion. My claim had nothing to do with any specific ethnic background or anything of the sort. Please be respectful of people's rights to an opinion, as I am of yours.
Dec. 17th, 2007 10:43 am (UTC)
I'm re reading your comment to try and find where you referred to a particular culture/religion... I cannot see it...

Dec. 19th, 2007 03:51 pm (UTC)


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