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Money Dance?

Are you guys gonna have a money dance at the reception?

My gut screams, "Tacky! Poor taste!" when I think about it, but my head says, "If the guests don't think it's tacky, you're a fool for not jumping on the wagon..."

What are you guys planning to do?

Wow. I left to go Christmas shopping and came back to find all those comments! Eek!

First of all, I really wasn't intending to be inflammatory on any level. I truly apologize if my word choice offended anyone.

The tradition was something I'd never even heard of until my two wedding planner-type ladies mentioned it. They didn't indicate that it was any type of cultural thing. They actually said everyone does it and thought we'd be crazy not to.

Well, since I knew that my family a) had never included a money/dollar dance in their celebrations, and b) are also incredibly uptight about money, I figured I'd ask you folks how common it is and get a feel from there...

All I know is that it sounds like a tradition that my immediate family would prefer I opt out of - and the last thing I need from them is another fight about the wedding! I guess I'll just stick with my own family's tradition of treating money (and the taking thereof) as a very private, personal, taboo subject.


Dec. 16th, 2007 03:07 pm (UTC)
The dollar dance is popular on the East Coast of the US. I'm in MA and all the weddings I went to on my mother's side (Aunt, Uncles, etc.) had it. Basically, guests pay to dance with either the bride or the groom. The way they did it was: If a female dances with the groom, she pays a dollar, but if a male wants to dance with the groom, he has to pay five dollars. Vice versa.

I don't necessarily see it as tacky, but the only reason guests will need to have money on them for our wedding is for their alcoholic drinks.
Dec. 16th, 2007 04:53 pm (UTC)
I wouldn't generalize like that about the east coast. I grew up on the east coast as well, in New York and have never seen the dollar dance at a wedding, ever.

OP: If it's a family or cultural or regional expectation that a wedding will include the dollar dance, it's not tacky at all. If it's something that most of your guests have never seen nor heard of and you think it sounds like a great money making idea that you got off of a website, then it might be tacky.
Dec. 16th, 2007 05:01 pm (UTC)
I don't think it's popular in any of the Large cities (Meaning NYC, CHicago, LA)
Dec. 16th, 2007 06:26 pm (UTC)
Wasn't trying to generalize, but every wedding book I've read that mentions the dollar dance, says it's popular on the East Coast, as in MA, NJ, etc. I wouldn't think it'd be popular in New York.
Dec. 18th, 2007 12:27 am (UTC)
Ditto.. I am in Philly and never wittnessed one and only heard about it on Wedding Sites
Dec. 16th, 2007 09:32 pm (UTC)
That's way too much of a generalization. I grew up in metro NYC where the dollar dance is anathema. I've never seen it at a wedding and I've attended close to two dozen in my life, from Massachusetts to Virginia, so obviously it's not an East Coast norm. It might be a Polish norm or a western PA norm but not in anywhere I've lived.
Dec. 16th, 2007 09:34 pm (UTC)
As I said in my previous comment

Wasn't trying to generalize, but every wedding book I've read that mentions the dollar dance, says it's popular on the East Coast, as in MA, NJ, etc. I wouldn't think it'd be popular in New York.

My family isn't Polish, so it isn't a strictly Polish tradition.


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