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Money Dance?

Are you guys gonna have a money dance at the reception?

My gut screams, "Tacky! Poor taste!" when I think about it, but my head says, "If the guests don't think it's tacky, you're a fool for not jumping on the wagon..."

What are you guys planning to do?

Wow. I left to go Christmas shopping and came back to find all those comments! Eek!

First of all, I really wasn't intending to be inflammatory on any level. I truly apologize if my word choice offended anyone.

The tradition was something I'd never even heard of until my two wedding planner-type ladies mentioned it. They didn't indicate that it was any type of cultural thing. They actually said everyone does it and thought we'd be crazy not to.

Well, since I knew that my family a) had never included a money/dollar dance in their celebrations, and b) are also incredibly uptight about money, I figured I'd ask you folks how common it is and get a feel from there...

All I know is that it sounds like a tradition that my immediate family would prefer I opt out of - and the last thing I need from them is another fight about the wedding! I guess I'll just stick with my own family's tradition of treating money (and the taking thereof) as a very private, personal, taboo subject.


Dec. 16th, 2007 09:41 pm (UTC)
It's not about NOT engaging in Dialogue it's about engaging in a respectful adult manner... not STFUing

I teach anti-racism pro-reconciliation classes in Indianapolis. If both sides are disrespectful, which I felt were, then understanding will never come. I'm done with this topic because obviously people are muddled about what I mean.
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Dec. 16th, 2007 11:26 pm (UTC)
Good for you, Mari. As disheartening as it is to see people put down the lovely and meaningful traditions with which some of us were raised (and frankly, even more disheartening to see you urged to be "respectful" of opinions that are clearly scornful of someone's cultural and ethnic traditions) I am always happy to hear you defend this custom, especially when it brings a broader scope of knowledge to brides who had previously been unaware of the dollar dance as an important part of Polish and Slovak culture.

I'm proud of our heritage! <3
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Dec. 17th, 2007 12:14 am (UTC)
The dollar dance will probably be a part my wedding and I'm marrying a man of Italian background. No one gets upset by it in his family. In fact that was one of the best parts of the wedding that I went to last spring.People are happy to give to the bride and the groom. As my FH says this is our family they give to us now and we give to their grandchildren or children later when they start out. There is nothing tacky or shameful in that. Plus just because there is a money dance doesn't mean you have to dance with the bride or groom we had run out of money (we gave a nice gift and it was a cash bar) and no one was upset or annoyed with us.
Dec. 18th, 2007 08:43 pm (UTC)
And let me make it clear that I appreciate the history lesson, but it does not change what I think, the same way that if I went around and taught you of my hispanic cultural traditions, you may still think they are silly or offensive. The post asked for opinions. Opinions were given. I did not mean to offend and I repeated that throughout the comment. If you are going to have one, go ahead, and make it the best dance ever, you have every right to because you do not have to answer to anyone...

or their opinions.


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