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Money Dance?

Are you guys gonna have a money dance at the reception?

My gut screams, "Tacky! Poor taste!" when I think about it, but my head says, "If the guests don't think it's tacky, you're a fool for not jumping on the wagon..."

What are you guys planning to do?

Wow. I left to go Christmas shopping and came back to find all those comments! Eek!

First of all, I really wasn't intending to be inflammatory on any level. I truly apologize if my word choice offended anyone.

The tradition was something I'd never even heard of until my two wedding planner-type ladies mentioned it. They didn't indicate that it was any type of cultural thing. They actually said everyone does it and thought we'd be crazy not to.

Well, since I knew that my family a) had never included a money/dollar dance in their celebrations, and b) are also incredibly uptight about money, I figured I'd ask you folks how common it is and get a feel from there...

All I know is that it sounds like a tradition that my immediate family would prefer I opt out of - and the last thing I need from them is another fight about the wedding! I guess I'll just stick with my own family's tradition of treating money (and the taking thereof) as a very private, personal, taboo subject.


Dec. 17th, 2007 11:47 pm (UTC)
Actually, it existed in India as a function of caste oppression, and still exists today in Dalit (outcaste) communities, where unscrupulous landlords do occasionally take advantage of young brides this way (and some landlords rape their female Dalit tenants on a regular basis). It's an extension of the deeply held prejudice that Dalit women are somehow more sexually promiscuous (which leads to 3 Dalit women being raped every day in India), and a way of demeaning Dalit men through their wives.

So, you know. It does happen. Not a fairy tale. Etc.

Dec. 18th, 2007 12:02 am (UTC)
it has never existed as a codified, government instituted right of sovereignty as described in various western literary works, and certainly not by the mythical scottish king evenus.

yes, abusing women and ethnic/social groups exists in a lot of places, not to mention the "chattel" of plantations everywhere and everywhen. but since when have people required a law to justify rape?


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