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Flowers (Allergies)

What would you do if you had a bridesmaid who was very allergic to the flowers you picked, would you want her to tell you, or just suck it up and dose herself on pills?

Also I would kiss your feet if you could find me a dress similar to this one


(specifically the sleeves and fuller skirt in black....pleeeassse!)



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Jan. 23rd, 2008 11:58 pm (UTC)
I would talk to her about it. In all honesty I would not consider using any that she's allergic to b/c their comfort is more important to me than the flowers. How allergic is she? Maybe she can carry the same flowers in silk if you must have a certain one.
Jan. 24th, 2008 12:06 am (UTC)
I would never tell an allergy sufferer to "suck it up" and dose herself with pills. I personally have never found an allergy pill that made me feel as good as I would have without being exposed to the allergen and I am fairly sure I am not the only person in my situation. It seems like the right thing to do is for the bridesmaid to explain the situation to the bride and for the bride to make whatever accommodations the bridesmaid needs. This could be changing the flowers, making her a silk bouquet, or using only silk. Friends and family are far more important than flowers.

My mother is allergic to more things than I can list (she had to sit in a corner of the church for my wedding and couldn't come to the reception), so we had a silk version of the corsage for her. The florist was quite understanding and helpful.
Jan. 24th, 2008 04:36 am (UTC)
i would tell myself that for the sake of not making my friend upset (i'm the bridesmaid)
Jan. 24th, 2008 02:00 am (UTC)
She should tell you if she's allergic and you should consider getting similar flowers in silk for her. I asked my bridesmaids if they were allergic to any type of metal before I ordered their jewelry. I wanted an honest answer, if I didn't, I wouldn't have bothered asking them ahead of time.
Jan. 24th, 2008 04:55 am (UTC)
tell her! i think she'll be madder if you sneeze through the whole wedding
Jan. 24th, 2008 05:32 am (UTC)
I didn't realize until reading through that you were the allergy-prone bridesmaid in question (I think most people assumed you were the bride!).

ABSOLUTELY tell your friend. If she is a sensible person, she'll not consider it a problem. Especially if you come with some suggestions (silk flowers, alternative, etc) about how to make the situation work.
Jan. 24th, 2008 07:01 am (UTC)
duh, i never realized that either. heh.
Jan. 24th, 2008 07:12 am (UTC)
I would tell her and suggest that she use silks. There are plenty of kinds available and they are easy to DIY and very affordable.

Just do your best to keep them dust free if you're also allergic to dust like me! *lol*
Jan. 24th, 2008 12:36 pm (UTC)
id definitely ask her to consider using silks or something other than flowers. as someone who is allergic to lots of pretty things that grow, i wouldnt want to rely on taking allergy medicine - they sometimes makes you drowsy or lightheaded and i wouldnt want to be at a wedding in that condition. i also dont think she's going to want someone sneezing or wiping their nose every two seconds during the ceremony. definitely tell her.
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