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 B4 I start, I want to say that this post is meant to be light and fun and NOT meant to start any major debates, but it is just a small pet peeve of mine....I was purusing The Knot and noticed the topic of labels vs. printing after reading some of the responses you would think there was a debate regarding life saving surgery or world peace!!!  C'mon people these are envelopes that in all liklihood will be in the garbage before you can say "tacky".  Unless you are in the midst of planning a wedding or some other elaborate affair, nobody notices the outside of an envelope (which has probably been through the postal ringer by the time you get it) and people will rip it open to get to the goods on the inside.    I love when people say they confuse envelopes with labels as junk mail and throw it away...REALLY, when there is a return address  and the envelope is usually oversized, you really think it is junk mail and throw it away...hmmmm.  Funny 100% of my guests responded, so i guess they either love junk mail or actually had the brains to figure out it was an invite.  I have heard others say that the envelope/invitation sets the tone for the wedding.  We paid for our entire wedding and invitations was one area i didnt want to spend a lot of money on so i did DIY, with clear labels... nobody showed up to my wedding with any hand made duds or jeans, in fact everyone showed up in suits and cocktail dresses, so i guess that  theory is out the window.  I also read a post once where someone had the balls to say that they received two invites for the same day and because one envelope was handwritten and  "nicer" , so they choose to go to that party...remind me never to invite that person to a party...ha ha.    My all time favorite thing is when people throw out the etiquette rule...OK people where is the master book on etiquette, who wrote it and when was the last time it was updated....b/c for those that "insist" calligraphy is the way to go, chances are that was created back in the day of quill pens....there were NO computers etc.   Is there an etiquette committe that meets once a week to decide what is right or wrong... 

There are a million and one details (and expenses) that go into planning a wedding, why create more stress over a label...here is a question...quick, for every xmas card you got last year how many had labels and how many were handwritten...do you remember? and for those that used...oh my god....a label, did you disown them or stop being their friend???

People should do what makes them happy and what fits into their lifestyle and not be dictated by what others think they should do....I may be in the minority regarding this, but appreciate listening to my rant


Apr. 12th, 2008 05:18 pm (UTC)
No Christmas cards I received last year were labeled - and yes, I did notice.

To me, it's about the fact that someone took the time to actually write my address out rather than just dump it into a mail merge. Will I go to the event if it's got a label rather than hand addressed? Yes. Will I feel a little more special and positive about the event if they took the time to hand address the envelope? Yes again.

A lot of etiquette rules are about making people feel comfortable and accepted within a social situation. Where's the problem in that?
Apr. 12th, 2008 05:31 pm (UTC)
Silly me, i would've thought that the fact someone actually thought of me and wanted me there to celebrate their marriage was the special thing, not the piece of paper that was sent in the mail. Oh well, i guess i have my priorities backwards
Apr. 12th, 2008 05:55 pm (UTC)
Inviting me is special on its own level. But someone taking the time to actually write out my address shows a little more investment in time and consideration on their part.
Apr. 12th, 2008 06:36 pm (UTC)
Apr. 14th, 2008 02:01 am (UTC)
Seriously, why are you so defensive about this?
Apr. 12th, 2008 09:16 pm (UTC)
And what does having nice legible labels instead of handwritten addresses have to do with making people feel comfortable and affected? It's just an envelope!
Apr. 12th, 2008 09:51 pm (UTC)
The time spent to address the envelopes
Apr. 12th, 2008 09:55 pm (UTC)
Personally, I'd rather have a nice LEGIBLE label that actually got to me than a call asking why I haven't responded yet because the post office couldn't read a hand addressed envelope. Besides, fonts are pretty. :p
Apr. 13th, 2008 01:47 am (UTC)
I agree with you. Millions of years ago when I was getting college acceptance letters the school I ended up chosing, hand addressed my acceptance letter. It was that little personal touch that made me realize I would fit better at this small school. I feel the same way about wedding invites. It's a personal step.


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