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Name and/or LJ userID: Meg/suitcasegnome
Wedding Date: tentatively July 17th, 2010
Bride/Groom/Other (please specify): Bride
Age: 22 (my fiance is 27)
City/State/Country you live in: Nova Scotia, Canada
City/State/Country you're getting married in (if different): Same province, different city
Your song/First Dance song: I'm not sure yet - we like "Wouldn't It Be Nice" by the Beach Boys, "No One's Gonna Hurt You" by James Iha, and "Until I Die" by Ben Kweller, among others
Wedding Colors: probably hydrangea blue or purple, yellow, and green
Formality: Semi - I want a fun summer wedding
Theme (if you have one): FUN!
Number of guests: Oh goodness - too many
How'd you meet your fiance?: We met online through a friend (I met this friend online, and she knew him from school), and after some matchmaking, the rest as they say is history.
How long have you been together?: We've been together for one year and living together for about 8 months
Do you have a personal wedding website?: Not yet!
Have you read the community rules before posting this survey? Yes'm/sir.
Anything else you'd like to tell us?: My boyfriend is American and I'm Canadian, which makes things complicated. Right now we're living in Canada so I can finish my undergrad. I'm graduating in May, and after the wedding we're moving to Kansas so my fiance can finish his. His family is Mormon, so the actual wedding ceremony is less important to them than the reception (it's not that weddings aren't important by any means - if you're curious, I can explain in more detail). That being the case, we're having the wedding here in Canada in my hometown so my older relatives can attend, and having a second reception after we've moved to Kansas so his family can celebrate with us too. It's a lot to plan in just 11 months!
Now, my first question (figured I'd better get started, since I'll be asking a lot of them). How do y'all feel about a practical wedding dress with re-wearing potential? I'm balking at the cost of dresses - even $100 seems like too much for something I'll only wear once. This has lead to me looking at some pretty awesome but nor particularly wedding-y dresses, like this kickin' 60s red cocktail dress straight out of an episode of "Mad Men" (I love the idea of a red dress, since it reminds me of Asian brides). My FH, on the other hand, would like me to go the more traditional "one white dress to be worn once" route. He asked where I'd wear my wedding dress again anyway.
What have you ladies been looking at? Any opinions? 

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__bin
Aug. 18th, 2009 07:54 pm (UTC)
I'm going for the re-wearable dress option right now. I know that mine will be white, but I think that I'm going to look for something that could be dyed afterward. Then I could wear my wedding dress to other weddings as a guest and nobody will ever have to know!
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chapstickqueen
Aug. 18th, 2009 08:44 pm (UTC)
I take a bit of offense to your thinking that one must spend $1000 on a dress in order to really scream 'bride'. I spent a total of $629 on all of that [$399 dress, makeup/hair by my best friend, $30 veil, $15 hair flower, $70 jewelry, $90 alterations, and $25 shoes] and was CERTAINLY 'the center of attention and fawned over'. The amount of money you spend has NOTHING to do with the fact that you're the bride. Also pulling in favors and finding things on sale really helps.
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__bin
Aug. 18th, 2009 07:59 pm (UTC)
PS: Where is your hometown? I'm from Canada and obviously it's a big place, but if your hometown happens to be Toronto then we can share tips and vendor information!

I'm also interested in learning more about the Mormon views on weddings/receptions.
erikalyn
Aug. 18th, 2009 09:51 pm (UTC)
What venues are you using in Toronto? I live in Alberta but I'm getting married in Mississauga - we already have our venues booked but I'm curious!
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iguanasdefuego
Aug. 18th, 2009 08:19 pm (UTC)
I am doing a possibly-rewearable dress. My mom is sewing my a dress from dollycouture. It's very feminine, but I think I could wear it out to dinner or something afterward. It's short enough that even though it's got some flouncy-frill to it, I don't think people will automatically think I'm wearing my wedding dress out to dinner.
soopaslette
Aug. 18th, 2009 08:23 pm (UTC)
Personally (because I'm cheap, haha) I can't justify spending a ton of money on a dress I will only wear once and that will end up in a box in the basement to be ignored for the rest of eternity. So, I opted for a unique dress (not completely white) that I'm hoping to have altered after the wedding into 2 pieces (corset top and seperate skirt) that I can wear separately out to dinner or another wedding, etc. Now, because I wanted something I will wear again, I did not look for the cheapest dress I could find (which is usually how I function), but instead got something I was IN LOVE with. Luckily for me, my whole dress cost the same as only the deposit my friend paid for her dress, so I'm happy that I was still budget-conscious (by way of wedding gowns, anyways).

I have to completely agree with the above commenter, though, regarding looking back at your wedding pictures and thinking "meh". I didn't want that! Which is exactly how I'd end up feeling if I let my family talk me into a traditional wedding dress.

Anyways, congratulations on your engagement and welcome!
nootlebot
Aug. 19th, 2009 12:23 am (UTC)
i was going to say kind of this.. if you pick a simple enough dress (not a full skirt and corset top, maybe, but a flowy summery one or something), i bet you could both look stunning and rewear it/have it altered to become another article of clothing.
ngakmafaery
Aug. 18th, 2009 08:28 pm (UTC)
...I say wear whatever you want, and if it's something you love and will wear again, so much the better...!
purplelover13
Aug. 18th, 2009 09:04 pm (UTC)
I'm going for something rewearable or under $100.
And my friend married his Canadian (now wife) in February and he's American. The process is a PITA! I hope yours goes smoothly.
suitcasegnome
Aug. 19th, 2009 12:43 pm (UTC)
Kudos! After looking around some more, I'm not sure I can manage the under $100 option anymore. So many pretty things...
I hope so too! A British friend of mine married a Canadian girl, and he spent so long in England trying to get over to her that they ended up divorced before he finished the process.
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epiphany_of_luv
Aug. 18th, 2009 09:31 pm (UTC)
After spending $1200 on my wedding gown that I wore to marry my first husband... this time I bought a $160 bridesmaid dress, but I wasn't happy with it, so a seamstress is changing some things. All in all I will spend about $320 on the dress. But it's red and black!

Wear whatever you want!
If you do want the traditional look... try looking at preowned dresses to save money.
nootlebot
Aug. 19th, 2009 12:24 am (UTC)
i got mine new with tags on ebay in the perfect size and color for like $250 less than it was in stores. epiphany has a point!
september1810
Aug. 18th, 2009 09:39 pm (UTC)
where in nova scotia are you from/getting married!? i'm also in nova scotia!
suitcasegnome
Aug. 19th, 2009 12:44 pm (UTC)
That's awesome! I'm living in Halifax and getting married in Yarmouth. A friend of mine just got married this past weekend, so I might end up using some of the same stuff she used for things like invites, etc. How about you?
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erikalyn
Aug. 18th, 2009 09:51 pm (UTC)
I'm from Halifax (though I currently live in Alberta) and I am also getting married on July 17, 2010! Just thought that was kind of neat :)
suitcasegnome
Aug. 19th, 2009 12:45 pm (UTC)
That is really neat! 17 is a very special number for my fella and I, so I'm glad it fell on a Saturday this year.
pastmidnight
Aug. 18th, 2009 10:10 pm (UTC)
I bought a bcbg dress on ebay for about $180. I could possibly rewear it someday, but I'm not sure I will anyway. I kind of want it to remain special.

Good luck!
olfactoryshiver
Aug. 18th, 2009 10:18 pm (UTC)
I started out wanting to buy a cheap dress online and altering it and now have ended up with a £400 (around US$600) dress (which originally cost £2200!). My rationale is that it's the one day where I'm going to ever (we're pretty chilled out people) going to have the chance to wear something that fancy and pretty.

Dress shopping was really my downfall because I saw so many beautiful things, I just had to have one too!

Like some of the other commenters, I think the most important thing is feeling comfortable and 'wow' in whichever dress you choose. Good luck!
elarbee
Aug. 19th, 2009 01:00 am (UTC)
I bought a magenta dress for $120 at Nordstrom Rack. I wore it to my City Hall wedding and I intend to wear it to my reception in October. I may wear it to a museum opening next year, too - I am also fundamentally opposed to one-time use of things.
suitcasegnome
Aug. 19th, 2009 12:47 pm (UTC)
That sounds adorable! Have any pics to share? :)
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nerdlywed
Aug. 19th, 2009 01:27 am (UTC)
I don't wear dresses, ever, so I figure that if I'm going to spend a lot of money on one it had better be something of great quality that I can wear 1-2 times a year when I have to change out of jeans. Big white poof is ruled out by this requirement!

My fiance feels as yours does, and my concession to him has been that I will focus on lighter colors when I'm looking. Light enough to look "bride-ish", but nothing that will scream, "...Did she just show up to my wedding in her bridal gown?!"
suitcasegnome
Aug. 19th, 2009 12:49 pm (UTC)
I'm looking at paler colours too, but oh man I love red! I've been focusing on Asia in my studies at school and I've always loved the look of a traditional Chinese or Indian bride (a sari and mehndi is more than I can get away with, but what a lovely vision).
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suitcasegnome
Aug. 19th, 2009 12:50 pm (UTC)
Nothing wrong with that! :) What shade of purple is it? Got any pics?
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