?

Log in

No account? Create an account

previous | next

Sticky situation

The other day I told my fiance he is NOT to shove cake in my face at the reception.
He laughed and pretty much said he's going to anyway. I was not happy with this and we almost got into a fight about it.
I told him I'm spending all this time and money to look pretty for HIM and I wouldn't appreciate him messing it up. He said it's tradition.

The compromise: No cake on the dress. No cake in my hair. No cake in my eyes. No cake up my nose.
That leaves him with my mouth, cheeks and chin.

He knows if cake gets shoved anywhere else he's going to be in big trouble.

Has anyone else had a "discussion" about getting cake in the face?
And why did people start doing this in the first place? It's so ridiculous.

Comments

( 96 raised glasses — toast the couple )
Page 1 of 3
<<[1] [2] [3] >>
ex_nopants511
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:43 am (UTC)
I've been forbidden to smash cake by my mother. She, too, finds it awful. And I do too. Don't worry, you aren't the only one.
_i_do_
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:46 am (UTC)
yay...other reasonable people out there.

I've just always found it pointless.
but that's just me. lol.
(no subject) - serendipitous13 - Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:46 am (UTC) - Expand
_i_do_
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:45 am (UTC)
there will NOT be cake in my face. lol.

and if there is there will be cake all over his mess dress....which he will be as equally pissed about as I would if there was cake in my hair/on my dress.


we haven't discussed this...but we may have to now. :P
he won't have a problem with not having cake all over ourselves.
serendipitous13
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:50 am (UTC)
That's another thing. He doens't care where cake lands on him. Right, he's not going to be wearing an easy to stain dress and make=up!

I hope he doesn't get too carried away.
heighlo
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:46 am (UTC)
We have had this discussion and my FH is well aware that there will be NO smashing of the cake in my face ... he agreed so it's okay :D
serendipitous13
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:50 am (UTC)
I'm so glad for you!
geminigirl
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:50 am (UTC)
I simply said to my husband "No cake smashing. There are going to be a ton of people taking pictures that day for the entire afternoon, even the part after the cake smashing, and I don't want to have to spend the rest of my life looking at pictures of me covered in cake."

If he wants to put cake on your face, make a compromise of something like smearing a dot of frosting on your nose.

serendipitous13
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:51 am (UTC)
The compromise: No cake on the dress. No cake in my hair. No cake in my eyes. No cake up my nose.
That leaves him with my mouth, cheeks and chin.


Exactly.
(no subject) - awfief - Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:04 pm (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - geminigirl - Apr. 3rd, 2006 03:04 pm (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - awfief - Apr. 3rd, 2006 03:06 pm (UTC) - Expand
pink_bullets
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:52 am (UTC)
We're going to feed each other a bite but that's it. I wouldn't want cake all over my face, down my dress, and wherever else it gets.

I wonder how the whole smashing cake in each other's face started? so weird.
serendipitous13
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:55 am (UTC)
It is strange.

I wouldn't mind being fed a bite. I just REALLY don't want it up my nose!
computerblonde
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:52 am (UTC)
I do not like that tradition and my husband knew that.. That whole "naughty/nice" thing.

I told him if he was "naughty" and put cake in my face..NO "naughty" that night! So he had better be "nice".
iconnu
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:54 am (UTC)
Hahah.. awesome. I'll keep that line in mind.
(no subject) - serendipitous13 - Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:56 am (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - snowbitch - Apr. 3rd, 2006 03:42 am (UTC) - Expand
laurbethm
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:53 am (UTC)
my FH is wedding CLUELESS, and when i said something to him about how i didn't want cake in my face, he said, "Why would I do that? That's gross!"

Apparently it's to do with cake on the face is for luck/fertility/fidelity/wealth or any of those other old-fashioned wedding superstitions. My feeling is if I'm paying that much for a dress and a cake, I want to look GOOD and actually taste the cake!
serendipitous13
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:57 am (UTC)
I wish my fiance was that clueless. He's only slightly clueless though.
travellingstar
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:54 am (UTC)
My FH was the one who told me that we weren't doing the cake in face thing. I wasn't planning on it, but it was reassuring to know that he didn't want to do it either. :)
serendipitous13
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:56 am (UTC)
You're lucky!
fes42
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:57 am (UTC)
Yup - I had the same problem. Kevin says "But it's an Italian tradition!" and I said, "I'm not Italian!". After all I spend on the dress, hair, make up, nails, teeth and whatever else I am wearing that day...I don't want to spend the rest of the night getting frosting out of it. Especially because I want a totally chocolate cake, frosting and all. We've talked about it so much at this point he knows he be sleeping on the couch the first night we're married if he even TRIES to shove cake in my face. And if he starts talkin' big about the shovin' thing? We'll just skip the cake cutting all together. : P
serendipitous13
Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:01 am (UTC)
mmmmmm.... chocolate....
Yeah, I imagine that would be slightly harder to clean up.
(no subject) - fes42 - Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:04 am (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - awfief - Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:04 pm (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - ever_abstract - Apr. 3rd, 2006 03:21 pm (UTC) - Expand
shlupquack
Apr. 3rd, 2006 01:58 am (UTC)
I really don't look forward to having an ooey frosting gunky feeling on my supposed-to-be beautifully made-up face. Fortunatly my fiance agrees with me that it's old news and not funny anymore, just annoying.

Maybe he'll be more willing to comply if you play up the fact that it's so been done.
serendipitous13
Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:04 am (UTC)
I don't know. I'll try that.
Thanks! :)
eicnan
Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:02 am (UTC)
I wish I could remember where I read it so you could point your fiance to it - apparently someone actually did a statistical study to confirm that couples who smash cake on their faces are more likely to divorce. I had it all bookmarked just in case but luckily my fiance has no issues with being gentle. I'll see if I bookmarked it at work. It could of course all be a bunch of crap but the article was well written, it might convince him.
serendipitous13
Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:05 am (UTC)
I'd really like to read it if you can find it!
(no subject) - fleckerbug - Apr. 3rd, 2006 06:34 am (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - batswing - Apr. 3rd, 2006 09:51 am (UTC) - Expand
kittycat_black
Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:04 am (UTC)
I find the whole cake smooshing in the face things so strange. As far as I know no one does that here in Australia... and Matt and I are sure as hell not going to be doing it!
serendipitous13
Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:07 am (UTC)
Good!
bellajellybean
Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:05 am (UTC)
There will be no cake smushing. I am not paying that much for a beautiful wedding cake for it to be smashed into my face and ruin my makeup and possibly my hair. I'm paying that much to eat it and enjoy it. :D
serendipitous13
Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:06 am (UTC)
That's what I tried telling him.
He just thinks it's funny.
(no subject) - bellajellybean - Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:10 am (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - serendipitous13 - Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:14 am (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - easter - Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:40 am (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - serendipitous13 - Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:49 am (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - easter - Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:53 am (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - graphemes - Apr. 3rd, 2006 05:12 am (UTC) - Expand
(no subject) - tackie_k_t - Apr. 3rd, 2006 12:23 pm (UTC) - Expand
devilgrrl
Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:05 am (UTC)
Wow... I'd be pissed. There won't be any cake smashing at our wedding, luckily, since FH thinks it's awful too.

Seriously, if he did that, MOH and I would probably be going on the honeymoon together and FH would be staying home.
serendipitous13
Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:09 am (UTC)
Maybe I'll just show him this thread. :)
(no subject) - devilgrrl - Apr. 3rd, 2006 03:24 am (UTC) - Expand
ireaa
Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:12 am (UTC)
At my first wedding (over 10 years ago), my fiancé and I thought it was silly and decided not to do it. We mentioned this around my father, and he was practically crushed. My dad seems to think it's a really cute and sweet tradition for some reason. So when the time came, we did enough smooshing to keep him happy... just around the mouth, and I got a tiny bit on the tip of my nose. People said I looked adorable. It wasn't too bad.

This time around, again, my FH and I have no desire to smoosh each other. We probably won't even bring it up in conversation this time, so my dad won't get to give us his opinion. ;)

serendipitous13
Apr. 3rd, 2006 02:18 am (UTC)
That's what I'm hoping for: just around the mouth.
I find it strange that anyone would think it's a "sweet" tradition. First dance, yes, sweet. Shoving cake in each other's faces... not so sweet.

I'm glad you have a logical fiance.
Page 1 of 3
<<[1] [2] [3] >>
( 96 raised glasses — toast the couple )

Profile

bodice
weddingplans
Wedding Plans

Rules Reminder

Please remember to read the community rules, located at the community profile. Pay particular attention to image sizes, how and when to use an LJ cut, and that we expect mutual respect of one another. Offenders will be warned and, if necessary, banned. If you have any questions, please contact a moderator.

Tags

Powered by LiveJournal.com
Designed by Lilia Ahner