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Alternative to the garter toss?

So...I'm not a big fan of the bouquet and garter toss. Or scratch that...I don't mind them at all, but it seems guests anymore at the weddings I attend hate 'em. The single gals barely try to grab the bouquet, and I've heard numerous examples of the garter falling on the ground until some guy halfheartedly picks it up. How frustrating!

I've heard of a lovely alternative to the bouquet toss where the bride has a rose for each female guest, tied with words of blessing either personalized or a charming fortune, that she gives out. I think we'll be doing this instead of a bouquet toss.

I still want to do the garter removal ceremony. That part of it is fun!

But I can't think of any alternatives to the garter toss. I definitely don't want to do it, as it seems unlikely anyone at the reception would grab for it, and it'd be a dud. Can anyone think of any alternatives?


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Jan. 30th, 2007 03:29 pm (UTC)
I just looked online, and found this. Maybe it will work for you.

Another alternative to the bouquet toss idea, is first have your new husband remove your garter, then call all the single men and women up to the dance floor. Have the men take a number and a chair, of course being all gentlemen they have to hold the chair for the ladies.

Choose a tune that best fits the occassion, start playing the music. When the music stops, the single women who don't have a seat have to leave the dance floor, and a number is pulled for one of the single guys to leave, and so on. Who ever the last single man and women are left they receive the bouquet and garter.
Jan. 30th, 2007 03:36 pm (UTC)
Oh, that's a beautiful idea! Thank you for sharing! I, too, am looking for alternatives for much the same reasons -- plus, I think we have perhaps 5 unmarried people over the age of 16 attending and its just plain embarrassing for the little ones to catch these things.
Jan. 30th, 2007 03:57 pm (UTC)
You can also google "bouquet toss alternative" or "garter toss alternative" - you get a lot of ideas!
Jan. 30th, 2007 04:04 pm (UTC)
We're still deciding if we're going to throw the garter, but in order to (hopefully) increase participation, we've thought about including a gift card on the bouquet (like Bath and Body Works) and garter (dinner somewhere).
Jan. 30th, 2007 04:21 pm (UTC)
We are skipping the garter. I hate it.

For the bouquet, we are doing the all married couples to the dance floor and have people sit down based on least number of years married. Most years married (the last wedding I went to it was 68 Years!!!) the woman of that couple gets the bouquet.

I hate bouquet tosses too, after going to no less than 3 weddings with me being either the only single, or the only single over 21. Humiliating.
Jan. 30th, 2007 04:29 pm (UTC)
I'm not doing either as I think they are cheesy (no offence to those who like thos traditions).
I've sucessfully avoided being rounded up for a bouquet toss since I was 9 and I'd like to keep it that way!
Jan. 30th, 2007 05:52 pm (UTC)
I feel the same exact way too! I'm not following either one of those traditions either. :P
Jan. 30th, 2007 05:55 pm (UTC)
I should have added also that I am not looking for anything to fill the time that would generally be used for those activities - more time for dancing!
Jan. 30th, 2007 04:34 pm (UTC)
I was going to do the single roses for all the women, but then decided it was too costly. So instead I had a break-apart bouquet of 5 roses, tied loosely together with a ribbon. Before I tossed it, I pulled the ribbon off. The girls loved it! My florist even wrapped each rose individually in floral tape, so that they wouldn't break if they hit the floor and they looked nicer as single roses.

We were thinking of doing something similar for the bouquet toss, but never got around to it. We were going to get a dozen test tube shots from the liquor store and have them hidden under my chair. Then my husband was going to start tossing them out when he went under to get my garter...and toss my garter somewhere in the midst of it all. We also thought of doing a variation of this with confetti poppers. Unfortunately, he never decided what he wanted to do and so we never purchased the "garter favors". *sigh* Oh well. The garter toss was fun anyways. My good friend, David went crazy for it and it was all good.
Jan. 30th, 2007 05:01 pm (UTC)
I had a really small reception, so there were only 4 girls on the floor (including my planner). I guess I don't know my own strength because I chucked it over their hesds. my three friends kind of ducked and my planner DOVE for it, she was so excited, lol!

lesson? you never know. there might be one in every bunch. :)
Jan. 30th, 2007 05:04 pm (UTC)
oh, and as far as alternatives go... if there is any German lineage in your family, a German tradition is the bride wears a floral wreath, and gives it away to her family/friends. The bride and groom retire for the evening, but the party goes on. At midnight, everyone voraciously tears the werath apart--a literal "deflowering" of the bride.

OK, so maybe it doesn't sound flattering, but, it's different, and might be fun!
Jan. 30th, 2007 05:24 pm (UTC)
We only had one single male in attendance so my husband just walked it over to him and mentioned there's at least 15 single females here so his odds look pretty good.

We did the single roses with wish ribbons attached and it worked out great. We asked all the ladies married and single to come and it's really the married ladies who get all greedy not realizing the bouquet would break apart and they'd all get one. The only precaution if you toss is with the ribbons they can stick easily together so while your back is turned to the ladies you kind of want to separate them in to two hands as much as possible.

Jan. 30th, 2007 05:45 pm (UTC)
What a great picture! I love it :)
Jan. 30th, 2007 09:10 pm (UTC)
My cousin told me about a recent wedding she was at where they auctioned the garter. Apparently the bidding went pretty high and the couple got a nice bit of cash. Not exactly everyone's style, but definately an alternative to tossing it to an unenthusiastic crowd of guys!
Jan. 31st, 2007 01:55 am (UTC)
It's not much different, but we're planning on tossing the bouquet and garter at the same time...it seems more fair for the same-sex couples and that way it won't look so pathetic with only two people on the floor.
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