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My husband and I got married in September, and one of our guests is getting married in two weeks. He lives about 100 miles away from us, so he traveled to our wedding and spent quite a bit of money on our gifts. He is a lot more well off than we are. After spending the money to travel to his wedding, we won't have very much money to spend on his gift - probably less than half what he spent on us. I'm feeling really uncomfortable about it. I'm starting to feel like we should have declined the invitation and spent the gas money on a better gift, even though I know that being there is more important, and if the roles were reversed, I would have cared way more about his presence than about what kind of gift he got us. Should I be collecting all the pennies from the couch and scraping together everything I can to try to get a better gift, or should I just not worry about it? If he hadn't spent so much on us, I wouldn't be worrying about it at all. I just feel like he set the standard and we need to meet it. :/

Does it bring bad luck to show your fiance your decoration ideas?

Hi girls, I'm getting married in May this year, and I'm fighting against the time to plan my wedding. I've been lucky in finding a location, some friend's house, which helped us a lot in saving money! We have a very tight budget, but nothing that will stop us to create the most magical moment of our lives.
I am very superstitious and for sure I won't be sharing the design of my dress, which I found at, and I hope it is not a scam, I can't believe the price of my dress!! But I'd like to share with my husband-to-be the decoration things I've found today when I went to look for some ideas with a friend. Is it going to bring us bad luck for our marriage if I do so? I really would love his eye and input on some of the decoration.
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Wedding Pictures!

After our wedding on November 9, 2013 I did a quick little post with a few guest based photos taken on our wedding day.  Our photographer (who is also my brother) recently posted a bunch of pictures on his website for us to share with the world.  Of course I have about 800 other pictures to go through before I figure out what I want to share, but this link will take you to the photos of our amazing wedding day!

Recap:  Whistler Canada wedding.  94 guests.  Goal was to create a warm and cozy kind of feel to our wedding day, and we were successful.  Our ceremony was right in front of a huge roaring fireplace (our celebrant had to ask us to move forward as her "buns were burning".  Our ceremony space was snug, but it made it so everyone could be closer to us.  It rained.  Yeah....wasn't thrilled with that.  But we made do with big umbrellas.  They ended up making it so we got some great photos!

Anyway, if you are interested, click on the link below!  I promise it won't take up much of your time  :)

Teaser picture (sorry if it is huge!):


Like most brides, I do have some regrets about having a few shots that our photographer didn't get.  But I'm doing my best to focus on all the other really good ones instead!

frozen elsa

MOH Woes / Am I Being a Jerk?

Hi WPers! I’m having an issue with one of my Maids of Honor (I have two because I have two best friends and they live on different sides of the country, so the one I’m having the issue with is one I expected to help me with a lot of the in-town stuff, and she agreed) and I was wondering how you all would handle it.

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Any advice or smacks back to reality would be greatly appreciated. ♥ Thanks in advance.
VM - Camera Spy

They didn't invite me, do I have to invite their partner?

There've been a couple of weddings where I've not been invited as a +1 to a wedding where my partner was (quite good) friends with one or both of the couple. Mind you, we've been in a relationship since 2009 and engaged since July 2012. I found it really rude that I wasn't invited. Would it now be rude if I said no to inviting a +1 to those friends? It feels a little childish, but sometimes...I just want to immature.
Bruins - shadow

+1 Ettiquite?

Hello everyone. Just a quick recap, Im getting married in October of this year. We have a lot of things already set- our venue, my dress, photographer, food and cupcakes :) But still have a lot to do.. Mainly we havent set our guest list yet. Im having a bit of a dilemma when it comes to adding +1s. There are a few of my friends that are dating people that I cant stand, and others that are single but might not know that many people at the wedding, and others who are in committed relationships with people Ive never met. How are you guys handling these scenarios? Also.. for those of you who are sending out save-the-dates, are you sending them to everyone or just the people that will have to travel for the wedding? Thanks everyone!

Progress Post and Guest Drama

With 82 days until our wedding, we are a little behind, but we are confident we'll get everything done. I still have to find a florist, as I was going back and forth for the longest time on whether or not I wanted flowers, but I couldn't think up a good alternative. I was originally going to get them from our local supermarket, but our cake designer is rather finicky and I don't know how well that would go over with him. For the amount of money we've put into the cake, the last thing I want to do is upset him.

We are still looking for our rehearsal dinner location, which hit a few snags when his mom kept adding people to the guest list. We got emails back from two places that look promising.

After having some issues with our hotel room block, we finally got that all settled.

His ring is in. Mine is still on its way. This is my ring.

We're in the last bit of addressing and assembling the invitations, and that is where I hit some drama.

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Wedding Date: Most likely Fall 2015. We would like it sooner, but it doesn't look like it will be possible.
Bride/Groom/Otherw (please specify): Bride
Age: 29, will be 31 by then
City/State/Country you live in: Upstate NY
City/State/Country you're getting married in (if different): Same
Your song/First Dance song:Not sure yet
Wedding Colors:I know I want a dark red, not sure what else
Theme (if you have one):Woodsy
Number of guests: We want it under 100, but most likely 120
How'd you meet your fiance?: He worked at a bar next door to my parents house, I had too much to drink and kissed him
How long have you been together?: Almost 6 years
Do you have a personal wedding website?: Not yet
Have you read the community rules before posting this survey and do you agree to follow them? Yes
Anything else you'd like to tell us?: I'm probably going to have a lot of questions and will take any suggestions, especially about cutting costs.

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Hi everyone! My fiance just proposed to me on Christmas eve. My ring was too small and is currently being resized, which makes me a little sad, but I'll have to post a picture when I get it back. Anyway, I'm already neck-deep in planning, so I'm really looking forward to getting advice and input here!

Name and/or LJ userID: Amber
Wedding Date: 09/28/14 (probably...will know for sure next week)
Bride/Groom/Other (please specify): bride
Age: 27
City/State/Country you live in: Nashville, TN
City/State/Country you're getting married in (if different): Nashville
Your song/First Dance song: I think we're actually not going to have dancing. I'm looking into alternative entertainment ideas. I'm really uncomfortable with the idea of all those people staring at me while I attempt to dance, and I just decided I really don't want to do anything I'm uncomfortable with on my wedding day. Plus, I know my dad would be just as, if not more so, uncomfortable as me for the father/daughter dance, and my fiance's mother is deceased. It'll probably be a Sunday afternoon anyway, so no crazy rager needed :)
Wedding Colors: Undecided, but I'm leaning toward blues and greens with a little yellow. My plan is to do as little decorating as humanly possible, so I'm choosing a venue that won't require much.
Formality: casual-ish. My family would still get dressed up even if I requested casual dress, and I'm going to have a long lacy number on. The reception itself will not be formal in any way though. We're not formal people.
Theme (if you have one): Vintage, but laid-back Southern style. I love lace and I have a lot of cute DIY ideas that look vintage (thank you, Pinterest). We're also having the wedding at a historical house.
Number of guests: Probably less than 100. We have a small group of friends and co-workers we're inviting. I have a large family, but I know a lot of them won't be able to come. My fiance's family is all out-of-state so only a few of them will make it.
How'd you meet your fiance?: Heh. Myspace. Back when that was thing. We chatted online and talked on the phone for several months and then decided to go ahead and meet. Instant sparkage.
How long have you been together?: Almost 6 years. We met in April.
Do you have a personal wedding website?: Not yet, I'm waiting until I have the venue booked and the date is official.
Have you read the community rules before posting this survey and do you agree to follow them? yup!
Anything else you'd like to tell us?: We've been discussing marriage for about 4-5 years now, so this has been a long time coming. I'm excited to officially be engaged and start this planning process! Also, browsing through some of the posts here, it's nice to see lots of other people who dated for a long time before getting engaged. It's very unusual around here where I live, and it seems like it's a rarity on other online forums I've visited. I feel like a lot of people I know (even some family members) judge my relationship for it, which is frustrating.

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